10 Ways to Consistently Love Yourself

I don’t know about you, but sometimes it gets really hard to find ways love yourself more in a consistent way. That’s why I decided to write this blog on ways to love yourself. If this resonates with you, then stick around and read for some amazeballs tips! 

1. Express Self-Love Outwardly

Take a moment to look at yourself in the mirror, smile, and genuinely tell yourself something nice about yourself. 

You can say something like: “You’re awesome! I love you.”
 
With consistent action, this will trigger the brain to believe that you  ARE awesome and loved by self. Consistently do this until you finally start to believe it. 
 
I promise you, you won’t regret it. I wrote an entire blog just on this point. Self-love blog.

2. Do Something JUST for You

The same way you do things for others, this time… find nice things to do for yourself. Do you find yourself randomly buying things for you loved ones? This time, go out to a place you’ve been dying to go to and shop something for yourself. A gift from you to you. 
 
You can even package your gift and write yourself an awesome letter. Just make sure you don’t ruin your finances in the process. Ha-ha!😅

3. Cheer Yourself In Tiny Victories

 Every time that you do something small for yourself, cheer yourself on! You woke up today and got your ass to work? Cheer yourself! You went through the entire day feeling shitty? Cheer yourself, the day is over and you prevailed!
 
Even the tiniest of wins like getting up today and brushing your teeth… CELEBRATE it! Your body and mind will thank you in the long-run, I promise.

4. Love Yourself Enough to Let Go of People that Don't Add To Your Life

Relationships, whether its work or romatic ones, are all give and take. If you find yourself interacting with humans that take more than what they add, here are a couple of things you can do:
 
You can break those relationship kindly. No need to hurt others just because you’ve outgrown their relationships. Let them know that you’re moving in a different direction in life and would love to focus more on other aspects of it. Be kind.
 
You can distance yourself from those humans just enough to diminish the impact those relationships have on you. Remember… we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.
 
OR
 
Have a serious conversation about your relationships with those humans. Have things become more toxic? Have your boundaries been crossed in a way that damaged the relationship? Speak out and make sure you get everything out of your chest KINDLY. We’re all humans and words do have an impact on us.

5. Enforce Your Boundaries without Shame

As women living under patriarchy, it’s very common to want to bend your boundaries for others. Remember that people that truly love you will make an effort to actually respect your boundaries.
 
If you haven’t taken the time to speak to your loved ones about setting boundaries, please do. This will help them understand and respect you. The people who really have your best interest at heart, will not push you to bend your boundaries for them. They will make an effort to respect them.
 
If you find yourself struggling to enforce boundaries, it’s alright. Cut yourself some slack. It’s not like changes happen in the blink of an eye. Start off by enforcing small boundaries like requesting to not be disturbed during work hours.
 
Sometimes, when loved ones are used to toxic relationships, they might push your boundaries without noticing. Please practice kindness and do your best to empathize with others and meet them where they are at. This is harder than it seems, but I promise it will pay in the long-run.

6. Embrace Everything that Makes You... YOU

During our teenage years, it’s very common to bend oneself to be able to ‘fit in’ and ‘blend in’ with the crowd. However, we must always strive to remain true to our authentic selves. Not being true to your authentic self will cause physical and mental disturbance in your body.
 
I always picture this in my mind like being on my deathbed full of regrets because I didn’t dare to be myself. I never want to suppress the great things about myself that make me a unique human. Be compassionate to self, always!

7. Keep a Journal and Read Entries from Time to Time

This might not be for everyone, but it has truly helped me in my path to consistent self-love. Every time that you have something to unpack, go ahead and take some time to write it down. This journal can be digital on an iPad or be a OneNote notebook. OR… you can even have a physical notebook for journaling.
 
Every time that you want to share something, but not really with humans… take out your journal and start writing things out. I name all my pages the date of the time I decided to sit and write. So every page has a unique title I can refer to in the future.
 
After some time has passed, go back to older pages of your journal to see how much you’ve grown and changed. This will help you stay on the right track towards your goals including consistently loving yourself first.

8. Never Loose Sight of Your Self-Love Goal

It’s very easy to fall off track when trying to reach new goals. You may find yourself engaging in self-sabotaging habits. I wrote a blog on this topic, that would really support you if this is one of your struggles.

9. Share with Others how Love Looks Like to You

It is easier to love ourselves when we have people who show us how much they love us. We feel warm inside and it supports the idea that we are humans worth loving.
 
If you’re struggling on receiving displays of love that are aligned with you… PLEASE chat with your loved ones and share your love language with them.
 
There are 5 different love languages and each person has its own preference. Make sure you know yours and communicate it effectively and kindly to those around you. The more we can understand each other, the easier it is to love oneself and those around us.

10. Always Practice Self-Forgiveness

Fucking up is human, but we need to learn to forgive ourselves in order to move forward. Lots of people label their mistakes as wastes of time… If you learned something from the experience, then it was not a waste of time. Just make sure that what you decided to do after you failed, helps move you towards your goals. Don’t forget to be kind to others and don’t cause them hurt just because of your decision to pursue your goal.
 
Learning to forgive yourself is one of the ultimate acts of self-love. Love and forgive yourself as you would someone you hold dearly. Learn something from the experience you made a mistake, re-assess and move on.
 
Although forgiving yourself can be rough, it’s a MUST in order to consistently love yourself.
 
Share with me your thoughts in the comments below!

1 Comment

  1. Sonia Roman at 1:36 am

    Great !!!! Well detailed article explained … I loved it .

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